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Happy New Year!

How are you? It’s been one heck of a new year so far for me and we’re only 2 weeks in! I hope the year thus far has brought you some luck as well as hopes for a great year to come. Each year, I propose a challenge to become my best self by trying harder to meet goals I set for myself. This time last year, these were the goals (New Years Resolutions) that I come up with:

I put my resolutions next to my bed, on my night stand, as a reminder each day of what I’ve promised myself for the upcoming year. This eliminates the possible out of site out of mind dilemma that gets many of us off track when setting new goals. Try this. I’m telling you it works, as I’ve had a successful year with each one of my resolutions! I’ve increased my water intake immensely, having multiple glasses daily and substituting other (unhealthy) beverages for it! My website went from zero to 60, rounding to almost 8,000 views, showing me that spreading positivity is possible {and enjoyable}! I’ve worked hard on becoming more punctual {but will continuously work on this during 2014} and set time aside to plan my days, priorities, etc. I did this by utilizing daily planners, calendars and communicating better to my family, friends and co-workers. Lastly, I feel that this year was one of the strongest years where I came into myself.

Let me go more into this one, as it was one of my biggest realizations and had one of the largest impacts on me in 2013.

I set the goal in 2013, to “Be YOURSELF.” In reading it, I see that it’s a bold statement with a potentially broad meaning. The truth is, I wasn’t exactly sure what I meant at the time, but I knew I wanted to make some positive changes to feel better about myself, and what I was projecting out to others. I discovered through 2013, that where I really lacked “being myself” was in my confidence. While I knew I was a good person, treated others with respect and had a good head on my shoulders, something just didn’t feel right. It’s one thing to have accomplishments and be successful, but it’s another to know your worth and not being afraid to put it out there. In 2013, I put Aurora out there, which was scary, nerve wracking, unpredictable and uncomfortable. But the best part I discovered, is that these feelings are essential as you head down the road to becoming what you want. Every change in your life is going to bring some kind of discomfort, because it’s not natural– that’s why it’s called change. So that being said, while I continue to put my best self out there and work on all goals from the previous year, here are my new goals for 2014::

What are you going to do to become your Best Self in 2014?

To a New year, 🌟✨

-Aurora Beani

I love this quote. I think we often forget that we are, in fact, in charge of our own actions, obligations, path and happiness. As the New Year quickly approaches, you owe it to yourself to think about the things you’re happy with in your life and things you want to change.

STOP:
-Playing the victim card
-Making excuses
-Letting society tell you how to live
-Relying on others to make you happy
-Doubting Yourself

START:
-Enjoying alone time
-Turning off gadgets and go outside
-Positive thinking
-Believing in yourself
-Making your own happiness
-Expressing your creativity
-Acknowledging your desires/dreams/wishes
-Make everything you want happen
-Making your own happiness tips
-Helping others realize they can make their own happiness. Like this

What are the things you want to STOP and START in your life? My tips for identifying these things would be figuring out what parts of your life you’re not happiest with and determining how to eliminate what contributes to them. After doing this, what can help you replace that contribution with a positive? Here’s my own example, which I hope comes as relatable and easy to understand and apply:

In the upcoming year, I’d like to stop doubting myself. Often I find that this happens because I lose confidence in situations where I’m unsure or afraid of the outcome. Sometimes I don’t express things that I should to people I care about, in fear that their response won’t be what I’d like it to be or what I think is fair. I assume the worst. How I’m going to work on this {adding my positive}, is reminding myself that the reason I care about these people and the reason they’re in my life is because I know them to be good people, who add value to my life and the world around them. Why should I make the decision in my mind for someone, without giving them the opportunity to prove me wrong or help open my perspective?

I think a lot of the things we should stop doing in our lives all relate back to one thing: selfishness. When we only think about ourselves, typically the things that can come from here are negativity or unhappiness. When we’re selfish, the view from the inside outward always shows us being the victim, making excuses, putting fault on others and ultimately pointing the finger the other way. To become your BEST SELF you must look inward… And figure out what stops are keeping you from starting.

What will you STOP and START doing going into 2015? My advice is stop selfish activities and replace them with thoughts, feelings and actions that make you feel good and spread positivity.

Start 2015 with a New Years sparkle ✨

Happy Holidays,
-Aurora Beani

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