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You Need To Forgive That Person, Today.

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Do you see the awkward shape of this photo? It’s because it’s a fortune from a fortune cookie I opened about a week ago. I got this one, while my husbands fortune said something about coming into money soon and my friends fortune gave her winning lottery numbers. Compared to them, how on earth did I get the deep fortune?! And since when did fortunes become so inspiring? This specifically meant a lot to me, because I’ve had some things weighing on my heart, and they have to do with forgiveness.

I’m not someone who holds grudges. Usually, if something is bothering me, or I’m upset, I share it. To me, there aren’t many things stronger than a good conversation that is open and honest. Even if it’s hard, it hurts, leads to an argument- talking these things out eventually makes relationships stronger, or shows you who may not belong in your life.

Of course, I wasn’t always this way, but over the years, I’ve learned to give people the benefit of the doubt, and welcome conversation before simply writing someone off. I’m sure this goes along with growing up and maturing… but I also know there are plenty of people out there who don’t take an approach similar to mine.

So who do I need to forgive?!

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It’s the juicy part, sure, but it’s also the part that would distract the point of this blog. And what is the point exactly? It’s simple: if there is someone in your life that you need to forgive, you just need to do it. Even if they owe you an apology, but their ego will never allow for them to see it, or if you know they feel remorse, but the battle of who was right and who was wrong isn’t worth it- you just need to forgive.

The truth is, when I flipped to the above thought in my You Are A Badass Daily Calendar today, it couldn’t have been more spot on to how I’ve already been feeling. If we sit and wait for validation or apologies proving we were right in a situation we felt we were wronged, we’re wasting our time. Time we could be happy and feeling grateful for the positive relationships in our lives.

So I am choosing to forgive– leaving negativity at the door and moving forward into a more positive way of thinking about those I’ve needed to forgive… and then I’m letting it go.

I’m letting it go.

Who in your life do you need to forgive and let go of negative feelings about?! A close friend, an acquaintance, someone you don’t speak to anymore? Forgive them. For yourself, forgive them. Today. Just believe me.

Feeling a lot lighter as I close out this post.

To forgiveness 💛

Aurora

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Being Emotional, Sensitive and Vulnerable

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“Never apologize for being sensitive or emotional. Let this be a sign that you’ve got a big heart and aren’t afraid to let others see it. Showing your emotions is a sign of strength.” -Brigitte Nicole

This saying means a lot to me. I firmly believe that the world we currently live in, frowns upon being vulnerable, emotional and shines a negative light when some become too sensitive or say what’s on their mind. This, in fact, drives me crazy.

I think people are afraid of feelings.

God forbid we show someone how we really feel about them or a situation or voice when we’re not okay with something. It’s so easy to criticize someone who isn’t afraid to voice how they feel and at times wear their heart on their sleeve. Again, I think people are afraid of raw, genuine feeling. I also think this can also be a reason why we don’t have the stronger relationships we want. What are we afraid to say that we don’t? What would help you get past something or feel better about something if we just opened our mouths and said it?

Call out the elephant in the room.

I’m not saying make a big deal over everything— at all. I’m saying, let’s stop worrying about how we’re going to look, what others are going to say, and let out what needs to be said. It’s okay to be sensitive and emotional at times. It. Is. Okay. And if you ask me, the stronger the person, the more likely they are to allow these emotions come through.

When someone has hurt you, they should know it. If you’ve hurt someone, it should be okay to talk about. All relationships are not going to be perfect, but if you’re going to have the person in your life for a reason, it’s worth giving it the best shot that it deserves.

Sparkle for yourself this week- be emotional and sensitive, with no need to apologize for it.

– Aurora Beani ♡