Can I start by saying I missed you? I did. I really, really did. I missed writing here, sharing thoughts and connecting with people all over the globe, who somehow made their way to my little space here on the internet. So for those of you who are still here, thanks for sticking around, and to anyone who is newer, hey girl heyyyyyyy! And welcome to The Weekly Sparkle.
I wish I could tell you there was one main reason why I haven’t been here in so long, but I think the answer is just, life. Life has been lifing (I know, I know, maybe “living” would be most appropriate here, but in 2024 we add “ing” to anything and the people get it, so here we are). I have a toddler these days, took on a huge interim job over the last year at work, and writing took the backseat. Being honest, a lot of things took the backseat, and it’s taken almost an entire year to feel like my head is above water. And it is above water. As a matter of fact, I feel like I’m sitting in the lounge chair next to the water, basking in the sun and feeling it’s warmth on my face. I will absolutely share more on how I got from being under water, to sitting pool side, and I think little weekly posts will help us get there. I told a friend recently that I feel the happiest I have been in a looonnngggg time, and I really feel that. So, if there is anything I can pass along to help you maybe get there too, that’s what it’s all about.
Do you see that girl above in the gorgeous artwork by Adrian Valencia? This is how I feel coming back here. I feel like I’m home, and happy, and ready to share and connect again. This girl is how I feel in my every day life, and I can’t wait to share how I got here.
I’ve been on a manifesting kick y’all! I have to say… speaking things into reality isn’t something I always believed in/thought of/cared for, but the more I’ve done it, the more I think everyone should! I’ve gotten into the idea of manifesting this last year and things that have unraveled have been pretty amazing.
Soooo What is Manifesting?
Well the first thing you need to know is that Oprah does it and if she stands by it, sister you best believe I’ll give a go! #InOprahWeTrust
Ok Ok, I’ll get back to the point…
Manifesting is seeing what you want in your life becoming a reality and taking small steps to making it happen. It’s saying what you want, where you want to be, who you’re with, what your achieving… out loud/ making a vision board/ telling your best friend, your dog etc etc and giving a life to your dreams. Draw out the specifics, describe the location, envision the person, be as specific as you can!
This has been my mantra lately…
I am so lucky, everything works out for me ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨
I literally say this every single day. Especially in moments where doubt or uncertainty settle in. And I noticed little subtle changes even in the way I respond to these situations. It gives them a positive spin and shifts my mindset. So let’s do this, shall we?
This month, let’s manifest, every. single. day. and speak what we want into existence 🙏✨🎐💓 & drop me a comment on how you’re doing!
Ahhhh this!…. just leaving this here in case anyone needs it. You have permission to not respond to things that do not serve you. 🙏Sometimes the best thing to say, is nothing at all.
It’s been almost 4 weeks since I gave up social media for Lent & I have to admit, I love it.
If you told me 4 weeks ago that I would be able to have gone this long without checking in on my social media apps, I would have thought you were crazy!! I went from Instagram, to Facebook, to Instagram and back to Facebook again day in and day out, just like so many of us. While I love really going for it for Lent, I thought for sure I would bite the dust on this one. It was going to be too hard.
As for right now… If I’m being even more honest, I’m sad to even think this time will be over in a little more than 2 weeks! I’ve told several friends that have checked in, that I feel like I’m getting away with something having all of this free time and not feeling the “pull” to be in the loop and knowing every single thing going on. My favorite part of these last few weeks though, has been that I haven’t really felt out of any loop. I’ve gotten more reach outs from friends sharing good news, life updates, pop culture shocks, then ever! The FOMO I thought I’d have disappeared in a snap when I realized I still felt connected to so many people, even without watching their day to day activities online.
So at this time, I 100% recommend doing a social media break. I’ve had more time to be present, less time going down the rabbit holes on TikTok or IG stories. I think I’ll be back after Lent to give a bigger break down {and to prove I survived lol}, so be sure to check back!
But in the meantime, if you’re contemplating a break- take it.
Xo Aurora
PS- I still really do miss my influencers on IG 🙃😄 I wondering if they miss me, too? 😝 Sparkle on Fam ✨✨✨✨✨
You read the title correctly y’all, I gave up social media for Lent. I know I know, what on earth was I thinking? If I’m being honest… I was thinking A LOT about this decision. Let’s start at the beginning, shall we?
As your average 30 something, I’m on social media a lot. My two guilty pleasures are Instagram and Facebook, with the occasional TikTok, Twitter, Snap Chat use. Before Lent began 1 week ago today (not that I’m counting the minutes or anything), I was probably on Instagram for multiple hoursssss a day. It was the first thing I put on when I woke up and the last thing I watched before bed. I had influencers I looked forward to watching GRWM (IYKYK) and knew what was going on with friends around the globe, even if I haven’t spoken to them in-person, or by phone and text, in years.
So why did I decide to give up social media for Lent? Growing up Catholic, each year you’d give up something you really like for 40 days in preparation of Easter. So through the years, like many Catholics, I’d give up thinks like chocolate, coffee, sweets, cursing, one year in my 20’s I gave up beer, (haha) you get the idea. And as I got older I really tried to pick a thing or two to go without to really embrace the Lenten season, and even at some point began adding things to better myself- morning walks, reading books, focusing on no gossip, praying more, uplifting others more intentionally, etc.
I won’t spend this moment sharing the depths of Lent, other than that it’s meant to commemorate the time Jesus spent fasting in the desert for 40 days- and if he can do that, I can spare the world some IG stories and a few tweets, right?
If I’m being honest, I needed a break for a long time from social media. I think I’ll talk about this more next week, but it has been on my mind for awhile, and as we approached Lent, I thought, here’s my chance to try something really challenging, and I’m more likely to succeed because I’m doing it for my boo, Jesus.
I definitely just said my boo, Jesus 😄
Anyways, I’m alive. If you have ever wondered if you could survive some time off social media, I’m here to share that survival at the week mark, is possible 🙌 As of now, I am l o v i n g it! Like, loving loving it. I have time to actually do things that make me happy (more on this later), and am getting better sleep and feel less anxious throughout the day! All of the stimulation social media gives us isn’t what our bodies were made for, and as of this week, that has never been more clear.
And look at me writing here, spending time with all of you during this social media hiatus. Writing on my blog has been one of the brightest spots for me the last 10 years, and taking a pause in giving my attention elsewhere has allowed me to do this. Just a small example of what taking a break has provided!
If you’ve ever considered taking a social media pause, come by next week and see if I’m still as optimistic, and in the meantime, pray for me, will ya?
I. Love. This. Saying. I’ve said it for years, and when I heard it again recently, I knew it was time to talk about it a little more here, with all of you 👑
Last night I had the true honor of attending the Athena Awards, which are locally held by the Women’s Business Council here where I live in Pennsylvania. To tell you I left with my heart feeling so inspired and my cup completely full would be an understatement. All of the amazing women honored, their stories of strength and power, bravery and wisdom… each one, one after another, serving as a true testament to the strength we have as women, alone, and most importantly, together.
We talked about being a champion for other women, encouraging and echoing their ideas and strengths, and helping them in ways behind the scenes when they need it, without having to point out to others that you’ve done so. Being a sister to a another women in need, OR to simply lift her up, can have life changing impacts for her and for you. My eyes were open in a way I needed, and I’m so grateful to have been in the room.
I had the honor of writing on behalf of my friend and fellow community supporter, Meg, as she was crowned the Young Professional Athena, and I just couldn’t have been more proud. Because Meg won… I won… all her nominators won… every single female in the room won. That perspective reminder was exactly what my soul needed 🤎 We all win when one of us wins- every. single. time.
Another topic we discussed, which I plan to write more about soon, is imposter syndrome. Phewwwww hearing that a room full of women I admire have suffered and sometimes DO suffer from this self talk, reminded me I’m not alone and that we all doubt ourselves sometimes. The reminder was to think about all the negative things you’re saying to yourself, actually saying them aloud and specifically telling yourself why they’re not true. When you do this, you reframe your negative self talk, turning it into the real, positive reminders you need, especially in moments of full on imposter syndrome mode.
How do I have a seat here? I don’t belong in this room. Everyone here is so much more accomplished than me. What if they find out I’m not as great as they think I am?
Imposter Syndrome is a biotch, and she cannot sit with us. *snaps fingers*
Another take away for me from the Athena Awards, was doing things out of your comfort zone. This is another page from a book I haven’t taken off the shelf in awhile. But this morning when I woke up, and thought more about the evening, I grabbed the book from the shelf and began wiping some of the dust off it. This is something I’ve been struggling with a lot lately, and it felt right that it resonated with me during the fireside chat portion of the night.
If I’m being 100% honest with you, which I know I can be, we’re all friends here, ♥️ I almost left the event last night after the first 5 minutes. I know, I know, I know. I just got done telling you how incredible the night was, so thank God I stayed, but let me explain.
Somewhere around 5:05, my imposter syndrome kicked in…HARD. For a few moments, I felt like I didn’t belong there, or maybe even deserve to be there. In a room with these incredible, distinguished woman, all who had groups of people they were with, people they felt they belonged with, and for a moment, I felt out of my comfort zone. No colleagues, no BFF to cling to, it was just me and I felt out of my element. (This was also before the amazing imposture syndrome pep-talk Meg gave us all- go figure! haha). But in the midst of those feelings, I took a deep breathe, didn’t leave and decided to embrace this amazing night ahead. I started meeting new women and engaging in some really great conversations and guess what, the room where I didn’t belong, or didn’t know anyone… was filled with women I’ve looked up to for years, have called on as mentors and have done community work with for over a decade. * Waves goooooodbyyeeeeee to imposter syndrome*
Stepping out of our comfort zones as a WHOLE has an entirely new meaning coming out of Covid times, so I’m giving myself a little time and grace as I get back into the groove of things. If you’re struggling with this too, whether socially or professionally, you are not alone. So join me and give yourself some time and grace and say a big-ol sayonara 👋 to imposter syndrome! You are amazing, you are worthy and you belong right in the space you are in 👑💕
To straightening crowns, lifting each other up, telling imposter syndrome to take a hike and stepping one foot outside our comfort zones, we got this ladies.
Happy Sunday everyone! Lots of reflection this last week, and as I sit here sipping some coffee and hanging with my little girl, I wanted to share some of it! ☕️
So let me start by saying thank you for spending some of your Sunday With Me, I appreciate you being here, even if it’s not Sunday and you stumbled here another day of the week!
I’ve talked about Sundays With Me before, but let me share a little bit more about exactly what it is and what it means to me 🙂
10 years ago when I first started dating Joe, (my now husband), he knew I liked to write. Whether it was quotes, inspiration or unofficial blog posts (helllllo Xanga & MySpace 😆), I loved putting my thoughts out there and seeing who could relate. So, I told him I wanted to start a blog that was a little more professional, with hopes I could reach more people and have a welcoming space for them to visit regularly!
…& just like that, my dream came true! ✨
For our one year anniversary he gifted me my current blog site with all of the framework and behind-the-scenes information I needed to look and feel like a “real blog.” I have to put “real blog” in quotes, because Xanga wasn’t exactly the cream of the crop or anything. IYKYK
Originally, because he wasn’t sure what I would want to title it, he named it “Sundays With Me,” and said this was because it was his favorite day to spend time with me and to relax, because we always had the best time together on Sundays.
What a sweet sentiment, right? I thought that at the time and all these years later it’s one of the most thoughtful gifts I’ve ever received 🙂
As I began to play with the blog and what I was trying to share with people who came across it, I came up with the name of The Weekly Sparkle. Sparkle to me is the happiness, positivity and kindness you put into your own life and the world around you. I love it ✨… but Sundays With Me has always stuck with me.
I think Sundays in general have always been meant to be days of rest, time spent with people you love, and a day that’s meant to recharge your batteries and fuel your soul from a hard week that’s passed and get ready for a week ahead.
‘Sundays With Me’ have looked different through the years: As a kid growing up, Sundays usually included a large Italian family dinner, some time at church, playing with the neighborhood kids, then eventually, Sundays With Me were filled with presentations and college work, then spent getting ready for my big girl job and the new work week ahead, and transitioned to times where I can spend time with girlfriends, go to a winery, and enjoy Sunday Funday!
Currently, Sundays typically look a little different (although I love a good Sunday Funday)!! Sundays With Me now usually include watching some Sesame Street with my daughter, enjoying a cup of coffee while watching her play, spending time with family and loved ones and focusing on gratitude. I think at this point in my life I’m realizing that Sundays With Me are really more about the Sundays I get to spend with the people who fill my heart, and how lucky I am to have a full life and to receive love in all the ways that I do. Maybe that’s what Joe meant at the time too!… I’ll have to ask him ♥️
After some downtime being sick this past week, I felt the reflections of a typical Sunday spill into the week. So much of our life and our mood depends on how we perceive it and what we choose to focus on.
On this Sunday With Me, I want to remind you to take a second and just breathe today. You always deserve to do this, but why not make Sunday your day to do it? Note 5 people or things in your life that you’re grateful for, take a long, deep breath and do something big or small that fills your soul.
Thanks for spending some of your Sundays With Me 🙂 I plan to share shorter, quick inspo in future posts, but wanted to give a little backstory to my Sundays and why I just love them so much. I hope you come back soon & see what’s twirling around in this head of mine! 💋
Happy Sunday Friends! Let’s have a great day & week ahead. Grateful for you all!
10 years ago I posted this, and felt inspired to share it now since it popped up recently.
Positivity can come in all forms, even if it’s masked at first as feeling a bit yucky.
I think it’s really cool to know that some of the most incredible relationships you’ll ever have may not have even started yet… and that others you treasured most maybe weren’t meant to last forever. The journey of life is really amazing, because it all unfolds as it should 🤎
This is posted on my Facebook page that is solely meant for inspiring, connecting, making those who follow think a little deeper, and maybe even laugh. It’s been 8 years of inspo, and I’d love to have you join 🙂 You Can Join It Here ✨
Woooosh… that’s how I feel reading this. Like my hair has been blown back with words the universe needed me to hear.
You’re on No One’s Journey but Your Own 💡
Talk about the reminder you didn’t know you needed.
I’ve read many times the saying: “Comparison is the thief of Joy,” and heck, I may have even written about it here before, but let me tell you how much lately I’ve been in my head and in comparison mode. And I’d say, comparison isn’t only the thief of joy, it’s also a thief of time, motivation, self appreciation, inspiration and self LOVE.
What if we took the energy we’re spending looking at someone else’s grass, grabbed our own hose and watered our own a little more? OR, better yet, stopped to see if it even needed watering. And while we’re at it, (because why stop now haha), what if something that works for someone else isn’t meant for us? Just as we have our own journey, others have theirs too. We can applaud someone else’s successes, life, happiness, whatever and still stay on our own path.
So let’s embrace our journey, and love it- every ounce of the good, bad, exciting, frustrating, enjoyable, difficult- ALL OF IT.
Our journey is OURS, and how unique and cool is that? No need to explain pieces of your journey to anyone, or gain approval from others- because it’s not theirs, it’s yours.
Cheers to wherever you are in your journey, and I pray that you are trying to love it. Time goes by too quickly, and before we know it, we’re looking back at a life that passed us by all too quickly, wondering where it all went.
So why not enjoy the blessing of life, compare ourselves a little less to the ones around us, and appreciate where we are, where we’re headed, and the people surrounding us on the way.
To calming our minds, and focusing on our own journey ❤️
The Weekly Sparkle 