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Oh my God- I’m married. 


You’ve spent months, maybe even years, planning one of the biggest days of your life!… And it just passed! How do you feel?? I’m sure similar as many of us new wives/husbands feel, but here is my experience and feelings. 

My incredible (new) husband Joe, proposed to me at our personally created and ran charity softball tournament in 2014. With over a year and a half to plan and save for our perfect day, it felt like the day would never come. ‘It’s going to be here before you know it’- everyone on the entire planet shared with me, and while I knew they were right, time always seems to go slower for the things you really anticipate (weddings, vacations etc). But I’ve been married for 3 weeks now (to date) and I can’t believe the day is already over!

I can tell you that all of the planning was worth it. From our awesome bridal party to the picture perfect ballroom…

…the day was better than I could have ever imagined and what a bride dreams her day to be. I am so thankful for the people in my life who made it all come together and that stood by my side through it all. Because sometimes wedding planning can be rough, present obstacles, people surprise you, vendors might be touchy, etc etc etc. You’ve experienced or read somewhere what I’m talking about and my wedding was no different. Some advice (even though it was super annoying to hear) is that::::

The day goes by so fast- enjoy!

I felt like my day was on fast forward the entire time! From our 8:00 beauty appointments…


…to the 10:00pm wrap from the DJ, it flew! The biggest piece of advice I took from this was enjoy the day, be present with your husband/wife, and if needed, be selfish with your time! If people want to see you, spend time, take a picture- they will find you. We had approximately 150 guests, at a 4 hour reception where we had about 3 hours of our time taken up by formalities… That left 1 hour to see people/mingle and do one or 2 things you wanted to do for yourself. The one item on my list: dance. We hired an incredible entertainment company for the sole reason that we and our guests/families LOVE to dance! At certain parts in the night, I asked my husband to make sure we were on the dance floor toward the end- and we were! ☑️ right off my list! 

I’m going to be putting A VLOG together on my top 10 tips for wedding planning- from bridal party selection, to timelines to all the crap to stay away from! -stay tuned!

If you’re about to get married or just got married CONGRATULATIONS! You’ve made it to your biggest moment of your life yet!!!! So happy for you!!!

Visit back soon for the VLOG or subscribe so you receive it in your inbox once it’s up! 

Cheers,

-Mrs. 

Friendship · Goals · Motivation · Paying It Forward · Self Realization · Uncategorized

Be Soft.

“Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.”

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I love this saying! In a world where everyone takes everything so personal and has their negative input against this or that, how amazing of a reminder it is to see that it’s okay for us to still feel positive about where we are. I constantly find myself in this internal conflict of whether or not to be consumed by those who are negative, as opposed to staying where I want to be- the positive side. Help me out here, but how many of you can think of one or two people in your life who are always negative? Whether they complain about every day things, gossip about others or tear others down or give their viewpoint about something, but it always seems to have a rain cloud over it. Isn’t it draining?? I interact with people like this at random, and those moments with them (and usually moments following) I feel so overwhelmed and drained. How can someone feel like that all the time? I imagine it’s difficult, and viewing the world where it’s always raining has to steam from more pain than I’m aware of. I just hate the effect I down times allow it to have on me. 

A friend of mine from high school wrote on his senior picture to me “Aurora, don’t let the world change who you are.” And this has always stuck with me as I navigate negative situations as they arise. It’s so important to remain who you are, even when faced with something you feel it’s easy to fall into. 

The world is a beautiful place… and my little itty bitty blog will always serve as the constant reminder of that. We all are entitled to our bad days (trust me… I’ve had a dozen or two), but I think it’s always important to remember life is good. Being alive is good… and the only person who impacts that viewpoint is you.

xo

Aurora

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2016- Your New Year

  
It’s here! The New Year is upon us and it’s time to make some changes!!! I love the beginning of each New Year because it’s that refreshing only-get-once-a-year type of feeling where you know you have a chance to make a change!  

 The new book of “opportunity” is blank. This is your chance to make that one great stride toward the change you want to happen! What is it… weight loss? Getting healthier? Finding a new job? Applying to (a new) school? Rebuilding that one relationship you’ve been meaning to? No matter what, the New Year presents an opportunity to spark the difference you want to make in your life.  

 So what’s your resolution? What do you want to change? Once you can identify that, you need to set your markers on how you’re going to reach your goal. You can’t make a change in your life unless you’re  challenged by it and work at it every day. 

  
So this is what I am focusing on. I am going to continue practicing what I preech and thinking positivity. I know that this is not as easy as it seems– but I also know the importance of trying as hard as you can to do so. Positivity is the approach I am taking going into 2016! In addition to this, I also want to live a healthier life. For myself and my future, this is extremely important to me. I’m getting married this coming May, and entering into my marriage in good health is something I want to achieve. And I’m going for it head on. I think better habits, positive thinking, eating well and loving yourself ultimately can lead to happiness. This is why I’ll be focusing on these things in the New Year. 

  

The above needs no explanation. I promise you if you commit to the changes you want, they will happen. What motivation do you need to spark the change you want? I’m sending you all the light and positivity you’ll need to get started! If you can, share yours with me! 

  
Happy New Year- thank you for the continued support! I have some great things in store for 2016!.. So please check back often! 

Sending you love and well wishes in the New Year,

Aurora ✨🌟

Friendship · Goals · Motivation · Paying It Forward · Self Realization · Uncategorized

Choose Joy at Christmas

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When you choose joy, you feel good. And when you feel good, you do good. And when you do good, it reminders others of what joy feels like and it just might inspire them to do the same.

Anything you find on this site is something that struck a cord with me and I knew would be relatable and helpful to others. This quote perfectly defines that idea. I have to be honest, the last few weeks have had me feeling a little down, and I even felt myself not as much in the Christmas spirit as I normally am. The cause of this has been worries in my life about things that haven’t even happened yet (and are not guaranteed to happen) that I have allowed to take control of my happiness and attention. I also have some goals in the New Year, that I’ve been worried I won’t reach, and I stopped and asked myself: WHY? Why would I allow something that hasn’t even happened yet, or that I’m not even sure will happen, control so much of my happiness… and the joy I should be feeling around this time of year?

A good friend of mine often reminds me to take a step back and remember that nothing like this is guaranteed. The things you are worried about (that keep you up at night, prevent you from doing things, etc.) have not even happened yet. You are worried about them happening, and you’re not even sure they will. I like to refer to these things as time robbers-OR- joy robbers. These are the things you allow to take up space in your heart and mind and they block out the things that matter- kind of like now- the joy of the season.

So I’m deciding to choose joy.

I have often referred to myself as a positivity promoter and allowing myself to feel down over silly things that are not present in my life simply is not worth it, nor does it make me feel good! So this is the leaf I am deciding to turn over, and there is no better time to start then at Christmas!

Joy, Happiness, Positivity, Excitedness, Cheer (etc etc etc) FEELS GOOD!!! The other feelings don’t… so why not take some time and remind yourself to feel happy today, the rest of the holiday season and into the New Year! I am so thankful for the blessings that have been put into my life and for the wonderful life I am lucky to live. I am going to make sure I let the people in my life know how I feel about them this holiday season, and plan to continue this into the 2016- and I encourage you to join me!

Go ahead and tell the one you love how much they mean to you, or reach out to that friend who is far away but means more to you than you let me know!- it’s the holiday season— Spread the Joy!!!!!!

Merry Christmas my dear friends. I am taking this moment to tell you how much I appreciate you reading this today, and the times you stumbled across my words over the last 3 years.

Sending joy and light to you and yours this holiday season.

Xo- Aurora

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I No Longer Have Patience For Certain Things

 

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“I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me.

I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.”

-Meryl Streep

I just love this quote. As I continued reading it for the first time, I thought to myself- who could have such insightful thoughts, and will it have a written author. Low and behold- Meryl Streep. Not only do I love her as an actress, but when someone you know is in the public eye, actually says something from the heart that’s so inspirational, it’s refreshing.

I’m going to keep this one short- because I think the quote speaks for itself, but I think pieces of what Streep says make it possible for anyone to relate. Think about the aspects of your life that you’re consistently trying to control, change, be validated for etc and now imagine just saying you’re done with it. In a single moment you’ve freed yourself from the burden of pleasing others, putting up with hurt, stressful situations or negativity. This is why I love this quote- it opens your eyes to the thought of freeing yourself from the things that weigh you down. Something I know that I’m working on all the time!

What do you no longer have patience for? And when are you going to decide that enough is enough? I’m taking my tips from Streep- I no longer have patience for things that don’t deserve my patience. 

Take care

-Aurora ✨

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Why The Hell Not. 

   
Have you ever wanted to start something but were afraid to take the leap? “Something” can be anything… It could be a diet, work out routine, joining a dating site, going for that promotion, moving somewhere you’ve always wanted to live, standing up to someone, running a marathon, telling someone you love them, leaving a hurtful relationship, taking that vacation – anything that you’d have to hit the gas pedal on and not lift your foot until you’ve reached your destination.    
   Honestly. Why the hell not? I’ve written a ton of blogs that address my starting this website and what it means to me to connect to people world wide about a range of topics. I’ve always wanted a connector like this, or an outlet, and never took the time to research and discover it. 

Until one day, I did

I think a lot of us think of things we want or what to do, and put them on the back burner because we’re afraid, don’t know where to start, fear the unknown, we’re comfortable right now or we come up with another excuse that pushes what we want away. We think that we will have time. I’m telling you because I know, and I’ve been there {and will be there again I’m sure}, that we don’t. You don’t. When you have something you want to do in your life, now is the time. Not tomorrow or next year, because tomorrow and next year become the next day and the following year. Why risk that the one thing you really want won’t happen? It’s silly isn’t it?  We do a million different things each day, but how many of these things bring us closer to what we want? You don’t like your job– are you taking the time to look into ones that might better suit you? You want to lose weight- are you still eating things that you know aren’t healthy? You are unhappy in your relationship- but do you help correct what’s making you unhappy or leave this relationship? I think a key thing many of us forget is that you’re not alone. In the driver seat of your life, no one else can push the gas pedal but you- however, there’s always someone to help pump the gas.

    
My website is the example. I knew I wanted to reach people in a positive way and to get my insights/thoughts out there with the hope of inspiring others, both to think deeply and let them know they aren’t alone in their thoughts. I wanted to do this for some time, and with the help and encouragement of my boyfriend (now fiancé) I was able to get this idea off the ground, and find out more information on starting a website. He helped put the gas in my tank, because he knew the correct way to do it and what resources to offer me. Who in your life could help you get to where you want to be? Who inspires you? Motivates you? Who is someone you look up to or admire? Essentially, who knows things about the stuff that you don’t? We can’t be afraid to tap into the assistance of others. That’s what networking, friendships and relationships are all about. 

In a former job that I held, I would often encourage my class of clients to imagine themselves in the position they wanted- then– had them fill in the blanks of how they got there. Who did they need to contact? What did they need on their resume? Did they have a connection to help get their foot in the door? I find myself doing this all the time in my own life. It doesn’t have to be a big task, it would be as easy as learning how to cook healthier meals or how to write a business proposal. Come up with A, imagine yourself at Z, and fill in the rest. 

Three years ago I imagined a website that would inspire others and spread positivity world wide  where needed. I wasn’t sure where to start, but found the right person to help make that dream a reality. Currently, I am writing to you from my website, The Weekly Sparkle, which I’ve run for almost three years. As of today, with this post, I’ve connected to individuals in 182 countries (!!!whoa!!!) world wide and have reached 100,000 views. In this time I’ve also expanded to Facebook and receive emails weekly from people around the world who want to connect on a topics I’ve written about or who are seeking advice. It’s absolutely, amazing. 

So I’m asking you, what is the one thing you really want right now in your life? How can you start taking the steps to get there? Sure, it may be scary, or not the right time, but will it ever be? Taking risks can be nerve wracking, and perhaps you might not succeed at first, or come to the success that you envision. But if you don’t hit the gas now, when will you? 

Go for it. Why the hell not. 

💕- Aurora 

Thank you to everyone who has helped make my dream a reality. 100,000 positive vibes go out to each and every one of you! Cheers ✨

Cleaning · Goals · Housekeeping · Motivation · Self Realization

How To Keep Your Home Sparkling- In your 20’s!

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If it were possible for me to love Lauren Conrad even more than I already do, she puts the word Sparkle in one of my favorite posts by her {Instant Love}! If you’re anything like me, aka in your 20s, aka busy, aka a working woman, aka have a filled social calendar aka... well you get it… then having an easy cleaning schedule can be a God-send! If you’re also like me in that you like organization, a checklist or a timeline, than this is the perfect right click and save document for you!

Let’s take your daily activities as a perfect example of E-A-S-Y.

  • Make Your Bed
  • Do Any Dishes Left in the Sink
  • Hang Up Any Clothes Left Around Your Room
  • Take Out the Garbage If It’s Full
  • Wipe Up Spills While They’re Fresh

I’ve decided to print this out, laminate it and post it on my fridge because of how much I love it! I think what I like the most about it, is that it gives me easy steps the first few days, then you begin moving into Weekly, Monthly and Seasonally. That’s the way I like anything that I really don’t like… baby steps. 🙂

Let me know if you’ve seen this before or if you try and use it for yourself!! I’ve started my first week doing it {it’s only Tuesday}, but so far so good!

Now, get that house to sparkling!

-Aurora

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Beginning a New Career- Saying Goodbye and Hello at Once. 

  You’ve got a new job. If you’re anything like me, change is not your strong suit. Many times in my life, I’ve run away from change like the plague and usually need to remind myself I can handle what’s changing and to continue to remain positive. I see this in my relationships, schooling decisions, friendships, living situations and the list goes on and on. What I love about writing however is that I’ve always tried to remain honest and share more of what I’m thinking than what I think people normally disclose. The biggest decision I have made so far in my life has been made- I chose a new career path and while I’m absolutely excited, I’m terrified

If you’ve found your way to my post, you’ve probably done a Google or Pinterest search wondering how others have handled getting a job job and/or leaving a job they really liked for a new opportunity. Well, you’ve come to the right place, because this doesn’t get much more spot on than that. I’m at this pivotal moment in my life, where an incredible career opportunity has presented itself to me, and through a lot of discussion {with myself and loved ones} and tons of list making {pros/cons etc}, I’ve elected to choose the career that will best fit my life and person goals. With this, I chose to walk away from a career where I had spent the last 10 years growing as a young professional and developing my leadership skills, along with lifelong friends and co-workers, who easily formed into a second family. Scary, right? Yes. 

Leaving your comfort zone is painful. It makes sense to me why people stay places where they are long overdue. When I reflect on how difficult the last three weeks have been for me, it makes complete sense. When you feel great in a place you work, why would you leave?  This is a question I’ve become a professional at answering recently, although it took me a week to figure out what the genuine answer was. Personal. 

The answer is personal. To be honest, with how hard this decision was, in the end it was completely personal. Meaning, I had to take my own life into consideration and think about what was best for me. And while working in a great environment where I felt impactful and appreciated was fulfilling and great, looking at what I wanted for my future (family, wedding, goals, travel etc) finally became clear to me. 

So I guess my advice would be to make sure you evaluate everything. As cliché as it sounds, write out your lists. Draw a line down the center of a piece of paper and list ever pro and every con you can think of. Bounce the list off someone you trust if you need it, but remember that the decision is yours. While talking it out with my fiancé and family {knowing they’d be impacted too} I appreciated that none of them told me what they would do or what they thought would be best for me- they let me figure it out on my own, offering support as I needed it. The last thing you want to do is add any additional stress to yourself, feeling as though you need to make someone else happy. 

Good luck in your thought process & if I can help… Come below!

To life decisions… 💟

Aurora✨

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How to Relax and Have “Me” Time

Hello 👋! Over this last weekend I finally got to enjoy some “me” time. On most days off from work, I think I usually consider it “me” time when I’m catching up on Tv by myself or quickly running errands throughout the day. Attention all people everywhere- THIS. IS NOT. “ME” TIME. To me, “me” time is stopping. It’s slowing down, catching your bearings and taking in what’s going on around you. I wish I could tell you the time before last weekend that I had done this, but unfortunately it’s so long that I can’t recall. 

As I may have written in some of my previous posts, I live in the beautiful Lehigh Valley, Pennsylvania where there is always a lot to do and take in. We’re full of great, new restaurants, tourists attractions, nationally know universities and who can’t forget Musikfest. I live in a town where it’s easy to get involved and even caught up in the daily hustle and bustle of a busy city. And while I absolutely love the hectic-ness of where I live, it’s a great thing to be able to take a second and enjoy all the beauty that’s around me. 

This Mother’s Day weekend, we closed down our Main Street and had a ton of vendors come in to sell artwork, soaps, sculptures, blown glass, you name it- it was incredible. After a busy morning, I chose to walk around Main St. by myself, grabbed a coffee {from the amazing Johny’s Bagels} and ended up having a great conversation with a women whom I had just met. It was wonderful. Not only was the half hour conversation nice, it was unexpected and light. “When I was your age I used to love coming here with my husband…” and “Yes… You need to watch for that construction on 33...” we exchanged back and forth. 

It was a beautiful day, but what made it better was that it was my definition of “me” time and my ideal moment of taking time for myself. What does your “me” time look like?.. And when is the next time you’re going to take it? YOU. DESERVE. IT!

Here’s so pictures from my “me” time. Enjoy!! 💋

-Aurora